How Does The World See You?
Few of us get the chance to know how the world really sees us. In
Alfred’s case, his chance may have come through a case of mistaken
identity.
Alfred worked with his father and
brothers in their family-owned factory in St. Petersburg, Russia,
producing land mines and other military equipment during the Crimean
War (1853-1856). But once the war ended, the company went bankrupt and
Alfred and his brothers had to search for new business ventures. Young
Alfred began experimenting with a new substance called nitroglycerine and eventually invented dynamite – a product that changed warfare forever and made him a wealthy, powerful industrialist.
Alfred’s brother Ludvig died in 1888, and some newspaper editors inadvertently mistook him for Alfred and ran the headline, The Merchant Of Death Is Dead! Imagine
what it would be like to pick up a newspaper and read a report of your
own death, and realize that history was not going to be kind to you or
acknowledge – in Alfred’s case – a lifetime of accomplishments that
included writing dramatic works and poetry, fluency in five languages,
and 355 patents for his other inventions.
But in his will, Alfred took a step that changed the way history remembers him. And now his last name is associated not with the invention of dynamite and Merchant Of Death, but
with the creation of an award that honors men and women from all
corners of the globe for outstanding achievements in physics,
chemistry, medicine, literature, and the best-known award of all – the
Nobel Prize for Peace.
How do you want to be remembered?
Joe's Garden Spot
In Support of Local Farms
Supporting
local farms and farmers makes sense from a sustainability standpoint.
Not only will we get local, fresh healthy foods and help local farmers
survive, but also we will cut down on produce that has to come from a
distance, utilizing petroleum and polluting our planet along the way.
There are a number of ways to get involved in the local produce
movement. Visit the Sustainable Agriculture Research and Education
website: www.sare.org and the Carolina Farm Stewardship Association
website for more information: www.carolinafarmstewards.org.
- Patronize restaurants that support local farmers
- Shop at stores that stock local produce
- Purchase from local farmers’ markets:
SAT 7am-Noon, Carrboro Commons;
8am-Noon, Southern Season parking lot, Hillsborough SunTrust parking lot, Durham Central Park;
TUE 4-6pm, Fearrington Village;
WED 3:30-6:30 p.m., Carrboro Commons, Durham Central Park;
THU 4-7pm Southern Village on the green. www.carrborofarmersmarket.com; SouthEstesFarmersMarket.com; www.hillsboroughfarmersmarket.org; www.durhamfarmersmarket.com; www.fearrington.com/village/farmersmarket.asp
- Join a Community-Supported Agriculture (CSA) program – help support a local farm and share in the farm’s bounty http://www.nal.usda.gov/afsic/pubs/csa/csadef.shtml.
- Grow your own garden. www.thegardenhelper.com
Joe Brown (my husband) is a local landscaper (www.plantsportation.com)
who has lived in the area for twenty years, and having grown up on a
farm, knows plants inside and out. I have seen the wonderful landscapes
that he has created for his clients, and have also seen him bring back
plants from the dead! He is definitely a hands-on gardener. You can
reach him at 919-929-0340 or by email joe@plantsportation.com.
National Police Week is May 11-17 in the U.S. and Canada.
First he takes the oath. Here’s what else he takes:
He takes it in stride when people call him “pig.”
He takes his low paycheck, realizing he’ll never be rich.
He takes a second job sometimes to make ends meet and support his family.
He takes…time to stop and talk to children.
He takes your verbal abuse while giving you a ticket you really deserved.
He takes on creeps you would be afraid to even look at.
He takes time away from his family to keep you safe.
He takes your injured child to the hospital.
He takes the graveyard shift without complaint because it’s his turn.
He takes time to explain why both your headlights have to work.
He takes criminals to jail.
He takes in sights that would make you cry. Sometimes he cries too, but he takes it anyway because someone has to.
He
takes time to explain to his family why he can’t make the ball game his
child is in, and why he has to work on the holiday when other parents
are off.
He takes his life into his hands daily.
Sometimes the takes a bullet.
And if he’s lucky… he takes retirement.
This piece is attributed to a Texas police officer whose brother and fellow officer died in the line of duty.
Tips To Save Time
Need more leisure time? These days that’s a pretty common problem and
goal. We’re working more hours and spread pretty thin, but don’t
despair. Here are a few time management tips that work well in both
your business and personal life:
Use a daily planner.
Electronic or paper, it doesn’t matter. Choose one that gives you at
least one page per day, and then make sure you always keep it with you.
Jot down your commitments as you go.
Get rid of your to-do list.
Why? To-do lists often end up being frustrating and futile, something
you never quite get to. Transfer the items on your to-do list to a
particular time and day in your daily planner. You’ll be amazed at how
much your stress level goes down and how much you accomplish when you
do this.
Set aside a block of time to return phone calls and answer emails.
Choosing early morning to do this is often best since the other person
will have the rest of the day to respond. Of course, return urgent
messages and phone calls in a timely manner.
When talking on the phone or in face-to-face conversations,
give the other person your full attention. Don’t scroll through your
email inbox or fill out your daily planner when you’re talking to
someone. Make sure that your communication is clear and focused, which
will reduce the need for clarification and other time-wasters in the
future. Don’t multitask when you deal with people; it never pays off.
Riveted Waist Overalls
Mix together one immigrant from Bavaria, another from Latvia, the
California Gold Rush, some copper rivets, and what do you get?
Blue jeans!
Our
Bavarian immigrant was Loeb – later “Levi” – Strauss, born in 1829. He
and some other family members emigrated to New York in 1847, and Levi
went to work for his two older brothers in their wholesale dry goods
business. In 1853 he headed for San Francisco and the California Gold
Rush, where he established a dry goods business, Levi Strauss &
Co., importing products such as clothing and bolts of fabrics which he
then sold to other merchants. By his mid-30s, Levi was a prosperous
businessman and a well-known figure in San Francisco.
Enter
Jacob Davis, born Jacob Youphes, in Latvia in 1834. Jacob came to the
U.S. in 1854, pursued a number of occupations in a number of cities,
and by 1868 was living in Reno, Nevada, where he made products from
cloth purchased from Levi Strauss & Co. Those products included
clothing for miners such as “waist overalls” made from a fabric called serge de Nimes (de Nimes being the origin of the word denim).
Jacob also made horse blankets, using copper rivets to attach straps to
the blankets. One day he decided to try using those rivets on denim
pants pockets to make the pants stronger and longer lasting. The idea
was such a success that in 18 months he sold 200 pairs at $3 each, a
significant amount of money in those days.
In
1872 Jacob wrote to Levi, telling him about these “riveted waist
overalls” and inviting him to jointly apply for a patent for this new
product. Levi agreed, the patent was approved on May 20, 1873
(considered the official birthday of blue jeans), and Jacob was hired
to oversee the production of riveted pants at Levi’s San Francisco
factory.
The use of the words “jeans” and “blue
jeans” didn’t become popular until the 1960s when Baby Boomers adopted
the terms for their favorite type of pants. Once considered appropriate
only for laborers and cowboys, today blue jeans are seen everywhere
from castles to the classroom, from the office to the opera.
How To Pick A Good Password
The Federal Trade Commission says you should avoid using the following
information as your password for accessing your online accounts:
- Your mother’s maiden name.
- Your birth date.
- The last four digits of your Social Security number.
- Your phone number.
- Your address.
- A series of consecutive numbers.
- A single word that would appear in a dictionary.
Your best bet for creating a strong password: Use combinations of at
least eight to 12 letters, numbers and special characters. If possible,
add capital letters in unusual places.
What Mom Taught Us
Mother’s Day is Sunday, May 11, and here’s a reminder of just a few of the things our moms taught us:
ANTICIPATION: “Just wait until your father gets home.”
LOGIC: “If you fall off that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”
MEDICAL SCIENCE: “If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they’re going to freeze that way.”
THINK AHEAD: “If you don’t pass your spelling test, you’ll never get a good job.”
ESP: “Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you’re cold?”
RECEIVING: “You’re going to get it when we get home!”
BECOME AN ADULT: “If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”
WISDOM OF AGE: “When you get to be my age, you’ll understand.”
JUSTICE: “One day you’ll have kids, and then you’ll see what it’s like.”
Get Moving Again – Slowly
If you’ve been sedentary for a period of time and you want to get
moving again, you’ll probably want to start slowly. Check with your
physician for his or her recommendations, then consider these
suggestions from the Department of Health and Human Services Centers
for Disease Control and Prevention:
Pick a
moderate-intensity activity that you like. You’re more likely to stay
active if you enjoy the activity you set out for yourself.
Build activity time slowly. Adding a few minutes every few days or so
until you reach the recommended activity time of 30 minutes ensures you
won’t become overwhelmed.
Vary your activities so you don’t become bored. Boredom is one of the main reasons people stop exercising.
Make it a point to continually explore new physical activities, then add what you like to your routine.
Give yourself credit and reward yourself for your successes along the way.
Do You Watch Body Language?
Crossing your arms seems to be a worldwide body language symbol of
defensiveness, according to communication and negotiation experts
Gerard Nierenberg and Henry Calero in How to Read a Person Like a Book.
Often, when people cross their arms during a conversation it can
indicate that they’ve withdrawn from communicating and are locked into
their position. While you can’t assume that someone’s body language
indicates exactly what he or she is thinking, you can use it as a
signal to pay attention to your own communication.
Think
of the times when you’ve crossed your arms. When did you do it? Did it
mean anything? When you’re engaged in conversation with someone and
they cross their arms, do a mental checklist. Are you communicating in
ways that are causing the person to shut down or feel defensive? Be
honest with yourself, and do what you can to get the person to relax
and communicate with you again.
Before You Get Angry…
Before the next time you get angry, consider this idea.
Whether
the situation involves your child, spouse, colleague, boss, or another
driver, when you’re angry, it’s probably not a good idea to make a
decision until you’re past the initial stages of the emotion. This is a
great way to avoid making decisions you could end up regretting, and
you’ll garner respect for your position of non-reaction while you’re
processing your feelings.
Apple Juice: Cloudy Or Clear?
When it comes to apple juice, researchers have found that the cloudy,
murky-looking variety is four times healthier than the clear types,
according to a study published in the Journal Of the Science of Food and Agriculture.
Researchers compared clear and cloudy juices and found cloudy juice contains four times the concentration of polyphenols. These compounds are associated with anti-cancer activity and are found in dark chocolate and red wine, as well.
In
the marketplace, however, clear apple juice far outsells the cloudy
varieties, likely because of a perception by consumers that the clear
juices are more pure. However, the process of clarification to make the
juice clear removes many of the compounds that provide the juice’s
health benefits, which come mostly from the apple pulp.
A little girl, asked where her home was, replied, “where mother is.” – Keith L. Brooks
Mean Bosses Bring Out Our Worst
A study by the University of Florida has found that even the best
employees can become negative and act out at work if they think their
bosses are mean-spirited or have treated them with rudeness. That means
gossiping, pilfering, backstabbing, and long lunch breaks can become
the norm – even for those considered star or model employees.
University
of Florida Management professor Timothy Judge says, “When employees
feel they’re mistreated, they get even. If they think their supervisor
is nasty toward them, they’ll find a way to restore that perceived
level of injustice. Training supervisors to treat employees with
respect is not something that costs employers a lot of money, and it
can produce real dividends.”
Creative Cheating
Some students are using their powers of innovation in very creative,
though unconstructive ways: to cheat. According to a recent article in Teacher Magazine, here are some of the methods:
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Detaching the label on a water bottle, writing the answers on the
inside of the label and then reattaching it, so that answers are
visible during a test.
- Text messaging answers to each other via cell phones.
- Taking pictures of the test and then beaming them to their friends via cell phone.
- Photographing notes so they’re available on their cell phones.
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For multiple choice tests, a color of M&Ms is assigned a multiple
choice letter. Then students line up M&Ms on their desks in the
order of the answers so other students can see them.
- Students record answers on their MP3 players, then listen to them during the test through earphones.
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Students write notes or formulas on a sheet of paper with invisible
ink, then use the pen’s ultraviolet flashlight to see what they’ve
written.
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Why Try?
Commit yourself to a dream. Nobody who tries to do something great but
fails is a total failure. Why? Because he can always rest assured that
he succeeded in life’s most important battle: He defeated the fear of
trying.
– Robert H. Schuller
Never Get Discouraged
As a young man, Daniel Webster, who would eventually become a leading
American statesman, was about to begin his study of the law.
Well-meaning advisers suggested he not to go into the field, noting
that it was already a crowded profession. Webster, however, replied,
“There is room enough at the top!”
"Quotable"
"I would rather have my people laugh at my economies than weep for my extravagance."
– King Oscar II of Sweden
"If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance."
– George Bernard Shaw
"I went to a restaurant that serves “breakfast at any time.” So I ordered French Toast during the Renaissance."
– Steven Wright
"There
are two types of people in this world: Those who come into a room and
say, “Well, here I am!” and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you
are!'”
– Frederick L. Collins
"True
heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to
surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at
whatever cost."
– Arthur Ashe
"We don’t like their sound. Groups of guitars are on their way out."
– Decca Records rejecting the Beatles, 1962
"Television won’t be able to hold on to any market it captures after
the first six months. People will soon get tired of staring at a
plywood box every night."
– Darryl Zanuck, head of 20 th-Century Fox, 1946
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No Ties, Please!
Shopping for Father’s Day, Sunday, June 15? Well, according to an online survey by interactiveDad.com, nearly 30% of dads said a tie is their least
favorite gift to receive. Other non-favorites? Twenty-one percent said
cologne or aftershave; 16% said underwear; 15% said socks; 14% said
power tools; and 13% said electronic gadgets.
So, what do dads want? An overwhelming 36% of dads said they want dinner out with their family as their Father’s Day gift.
Thanks, Honey!
No one would ever make light of the discomfort from a bee sting, or
minimize the potentially fatal results of a bee sting to someone who’s
allergic. Then there’s the problem of bee colonies coming to live in
your attic, backyard tree or other location too close for comfort. Yes,
sharing our space with bees is a challenge – and it’s also a blessing.
There
are thousands of bee species, but the two we’re most familiar with are
bumblebees and honeybees. It’s domesticated honeybees – and their
pollination activity – that bring us one mouthful in three of
the foods we eat, either directly or indirectly. Directly when we’re
eating any of the 90 crops honeybees pollinate, from almonds and apples
to cucumbers, oranges and zucchini; indirectly when our food comes from
animals that consume crops dependent on honeybee pollination. Many of
your favorite flowers also need bees to bloom, and don’t forget
fragrant beeswax candles, and that sweet bee by-product: honey!
Honeybees
tend to sting when the colony feels threatened or when you swat at or
step on one. The U.S. Agricultural Research Service (ARS) suggests,
“Generally, if you leave a bee alone, it will leave you alone.” If a
colony has moved in too close for comfort, contact your city or county
health service or a professional exterminator for advice – do not try to remove the colony yourself.
So, while it’s best to avoid all
bees, it’s good to remember how meager our menus would be without them.
And the next time you sink your teeth into a juicy, crunchy apple or a
sweet, cold slice of watermelon, remember they’re brought to you by
bees and say, “Thanks, honey!”
It’s Graduation Time
Here are some wise words for graduates from a commencement address given by bestselling author Anna Quindlen:
“You
walk out of here this afternoon with only one thing no one else has.
There will be hundreds of people out there with your same degree; there
will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a living. But
you will be the only person alive who has sole custody of your life.”
Small Mistake – Big Problem
In today’s ever-punitive world of credit ratings, here’s a story of how something fairly insignificant can hurt your credit.
A
customer who had a decent rating ordered a clock that cost $11.95 from
an insert included with his department store credit card bill. He
received the clock – but it quit working two days after later. The
customer tried to reach someone right away at the toll-free number
where he’d ordered the clock, but this time no one answered.
He
decided that the department store should take some responsibility in
the matter, and to not to pay his bill until everything was cleared up.
Instead, the department store applied a $29 penalty fee to his credit
card bill and reported him to the credit bureau for nonpayment.
Good-bye, decent credit rating!
The account, it
turned out, was managed by an entirely different company, which was
indifferent as to whether the department store’s customers were
satisfied.
The World Is Rich With Opportunity
Do you think that opportunity only knocks once? If you do, Richard Carlson, author of Don’t Worry – Make Money, says you’re buying into one of the most perpetuated myths in our culture.
Carlson
argues that this kind of thinking inspires people to do things they
really don’t want to do, and that it’s based on a “never enough to go
around” mindset that just isn’t true. Thinking that it’s “now or never”
often encourages bad decision making, he says. For example, you might
take a job you don’t want or move to an area that doesn’t suit you.
The
world we live in is rich with ever-increasing opportunity, says
Carlson. The world is in need of creative people, and everyone has
unique gifts and talents to offer. You just have to figure out how it’s
going to work for you. There are thousands of jobs out there that you
can do. There are thousands of business opportunities. But first you
have to overcome your fears: the fear of not having enough, and the
fear that you only get one shot and then it’s over.
It just isn’t so. Your life will be filled with great opportunities over and over again.
Dads Want More
"Kid Time"
According to CareerBuilder.com and CNN.com, 37% of working dads say
they’d dump their jobs if their spouses or partners made enough money
to support the family. Thirty-six percent said they’d take a pay cut to
be able to spend more time with their kids. Here are some of the
survey’s other findings:
24% of working dads feel work is negatively affecting their relationships with their kids.
48% reported missing at least one significant event in the past year of their child’s life because of work.
18% reported missing four or more significant events in their child’s life in the past year due to work.
27% of working dads say they spend more than 50 hours a week working. Eight percent reported working more than 60 hours per week.
25%
of working dads say they spend less than one hour per day with their
children. Forty-two percent say they spend less than two hours each
day.
36% of dads say their companies do not offer flexible work arrangements for them.
How To Spot Bullying
Bullying among children is aggressive behavior that is intentional, and
involves an imbalance of power or strength. It’s most often associated
with school environments – on the playground, in the classroom,
cafeteria, bathrooms and hallways, on the school bus – but in fact it
happens anywhere children and youth gather. And it does happen anywhere
– in rural, suburban, and urban communities, and among children of
every income level, race, and geographic region. And bullying takes
several forms: physical bullying (hitting and punching), verbal
bullying (threats, teasing, name calling and rumor spreading), social
isolation (shunning or leaving a child out on purpose), and
cyberbullying (sending insulting messages by phone or computer).
Bullying
has figured in school shootings and in many student suicides. Children
who are bullied are more likely than other children to have lower
self-esteem, as well as higher rates of depression, loneliness, and
anxiety. They’re more likely to want to avoid attending school and have
higher school absenteeism rates. Their physical health can be adversely
affected now, and as adults they’re more likely to suffer from
depression and low self-esteem. Bullied children can also grow up to
become passive adults who tolerate their own children’s being bullied.
What are some possible warning signs that a child is being bullied? The child:
- Comes home with torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing, books or other belongings.
- Has few, if any, friends with whom he or she spends time.
- Has unexplained bruises, cuts or scratches.
- Has lost interest in school work or suddenly begins to do poorly in school.
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Seems afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, riding the
school bus, or taking part in organized activities with peers.
- Appears sad, moody, teary or depressed when he or she comes home.
Bullying
prevention requires a unified effort by school administrators,
counselors, teachers, parents, and students, who need to feel safe
letting their parents know they or a classmate is being bullied. Here
are some Web sites with lots of practical, useful information about
spotting and stopping bullying: http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov; http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/15plus/ aboutbullying.asp; and http://www.tolerance.org.
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On the Calendar
May 5 – American Dance Festival (June 5-July 19) Tickets go on sale - www.americandancefestival.org
MAY 6 – PRIMARY ELECTIONS www.sboe.state.nc.us PLEASE VOTE!!!!
June 7 – Skywatching Session, 9-11pm, Jordan Lake Ebenezer Church Recreation area
First Saturday of every month – Really Really Free Market, 2:30-5pm, Carrboro Town Commons. Bring something to share with your community—art, music, clothing, food, skills, furniture, wisdom, crafts, proposals, etc.
Every Sunday – Jazz Brunch & More, 11am-1pm, Weaver Street Market lawn (Carrboro) www.weaverstreetmarket.coop
Arts & Entertainment Calendar - www.indyweek.com/gyrobase/Events?StartDate=All
Websites for Positive Change:
We all have to share the planet, and these may provide a good start.
www.wral.com/news/local/page/1948511/ Water conservation tips
www.energystar.gov Energy-saving tips
www.nrdc.org Ways to safeguard the earth’s resources
www.rmi.org Reducing our dependence on fossil fuels
www.ncwarn.org Tackling climate change
www.water.org Providing safe drinking water worldwide
Points To Ponder
What if there were no hypothetical questions?
If a parsley farmer is sued, can they garnish his wages?
Is there another word for “synonym”?
Where do forest rangers go to “get away from it all”?
What do you do when you see an endangered animal eating an endangered plant?
Would a fly without wings be called a “walk”?
If the police arrest a mime, do they tell him he has the right to remain silent?
Why do they put Braille on drive-through bank machines?
How do they get deer to cross the road only at those yellow road signs?
What was the best thing before sliced bread?
If you ate both pasta and antipasto, would you still be hungry?
If you try to fail, and succeed, which have you done?
Why is there an expiration date on sour cream?
Have You Seen
The Secret?
Find out for yourself about The Secret. http://www.thesecret.tv/.
Website Discoveries:
www.naturalhandyman.com How-to-tips for around the house
www.ethicalmovers.org Prescreened movers
www.upack.com/moving-resources/checklist.asp Moving checklist
www.refdesk.com Wonderful online information resource
www.cyndislist.com Genealogical web site links
www.disabilityinfo.gov Government information about disability issues
www.rinkworks.com/ brainfood Free puzzles to challenge the brain
www.smsync.com Smart Sync Software – for easy backup of important data
www.cutepdf.com Free software for quick conversion of files to PDF format
http://hes.lbl.gov/ Calculate energy use in your home and identify ways to save
www.google.com/alerts Notifications when you, your business or other topic of interest is mentioned on the Internet
www.mmiworld.com
/codelist.htmArea codes
http://zip4.usps.com/zip4 Zip codes
www.symsys.com Distance between US cities
www.xe.com/uccForeign currency converter
www.wunderground.com
/severe.aspWeather alerts
www.cfa.harvard.edu
/press/skyreport Constellations, planets, etc.
www.bookspot.com/readinglists Reading suggestions for adults, teens, children
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